I have came to the conclusion, after accurate anthropological observation, that these days it seems increasingly easier for everybody to get naked physically rather than opening our heart to others, putting down the masks we always wear.
It seems to me that the trend of having casual sex is gaining absurd popularity, destroying our capacity and opportunity of getting to know and falling in love with someone.
Well, it all makes sense if we think about how difficult is to put up with the negative side of the others and above all how time-consuming is the practice of trying to deeply understand somebody. Lack of time seems to be a good excuse if we consider that all we want is please our instant cravings. We tell ourselves that since we've got only one life, we should live it to the fullest, enjoying every moment. And we end up treating the other human being, not like a person, but like a bowl of cereals, something that is supposed to appease our physiological needs. Just like food is satisfying hunger.
And in all this I see great desolation.
I feel frustrated whenever I get into conversation that end always in the same way, the end of them being question like "what color is your underwear?", "do you wanna have sex with me?", "send me a picture of you". And the reason behind my disgust is not moral or religious belief. It gets directly to my personal worth. I get angry every time I get asked things like those above because they make me feel like a void. They make me feel like there is nothing about me but my sexuality. They make me feel like I am not worth getting to know with no second purpose the other person.
And it doesn't even help knowing that I am desired. It is not flattering at all knowing that all the people would like from me is having a one night stand.
My mom says that guys these days are extremely disoriented. And I can not argue that, but I would add that girls are lost too. Because the real problem is that nobody teaches to guys how to love somebody else and to the girls how to love themselves. Think about it. Boys just want sex and offer sex, because they can't offer you love, if they don't know what it is all about. And we should also mention that we girls can be pretty mean to guys, disregarding completely the idea that they could suffer and be insecure as much as we are. Which leads to my next point. Girls accept oftentimes this treatment, because they do not know their real value and are unable to love themselves, which means accepting our physical appearance, but above all understanding our complex emotional being.
Therefore, for both sexes is easier to reduce everything to a mechanical and temporarily valuable (only sometimes) experience, so we don't need to confront ourselves with others.
And it is all just like sand between our fingers. Everything slips away the day after, when we wake up next to strangers that don't know us and do not care about making the effort of learning who we are. And this leaves us all feeling empty and surely we will need to find another date before the new weekend comes by, otherwise we will find ourselves looking into a mirror with a feeling of metal in our heart.
Oh well, if we won't find anybody who wants to alleviate this pain for some hours, we can always drink until we burn inside. But this is another story.
And for me this is the naked (sad) truth.
Ps. While I was reading to check if did any mistake I have noticed the rather gloomy and negative atmosphere I depict in this post. But it is not how I see life. Sure, I see these negative aspects, but I believe that we are better than this. I am sure that we all want love ultimately, but we are too scared to look for it.
